Communication runs our world.
Communication created the world. Well, at least the societies of our human world.
Communication was the tool that allowed people to share and develop ideas. It allowed inventions and insights to travel not just from one person to another, but from one tribe to another, from one continent to another.
It helped us organize the world around us. It helped us develop codes of conduct that help us collaborate and grow across the world. It helped us achieve a deeper understanding of the world around us - and share it with others.
Imagine if you were unable to communicate with the world around you. That neither your verbal or your non-verbal language was understandable to anyone but you. You could still interact with everyone. Still move around. Make noises. Flap your arms. But no one would understand what any of it meant.
How much do you think you would achieve? Or even get done, on a daily basis?
The truth is that although this is a bit of an exaggerated example, people tend to not understand each other a lot more often than we think. A simple example of this is how often misunderstandings lead to errors, conflicts or lack of results.
It is not lost on most people how important communication is. But very few are aware of how often the things we try to communicate is not understood by other people. And even fewer are aware of the fact that successful communication starts from inside of ourselves.
"My problem used to be a lack of focus and a lot of negative thoughts, but this has been so much easier to deal with when working with someone so positive who helps me see opportunities rather than obstacles. It has helped me a lot. I have a whole new sense of motivation and focus than I used to :)" - Kjetil, former client.
In our fast-paced world, with seemingly endless tools to help us communicate, our social intelligence is more important than ever before. Without it, we are likely to misunderstand what others try to communicate to us, and vice versa.
So how do we go about improving our social intelligence?
By removing all the things that are holding it back.
Study after study, as well hundreds of anecdotal examples from my own experience from all over the world, show one thing: Social intelligence, and good communication, is an innate skill in humans. Poor social intelligence and communication is more often than not a result of what we call contaminated thinking - than an actual lack of intelligence.
"The follow-up, adapted to your personal needs and wants, is fantastic. [TJ] is true to his word and delivers what he promises to deliver, or more. [TJ]'s integrity is complete and he practices what he preaches. I always learn something new when talking to [TJ], from dating, artificial intelligence, how to take better photos or how to peel a banana :D" - Øystein, former client. [Translated]
Contaminated thinking can be many things, but these tend to be the most common ones:
- Lacking an understanding of communicational psychology.
- Believing in faulty myths and erroneous knowledge.
- Being "in your head" instead of in the conversation.
- Guarding yourself against potential vulnerability.
Through achieving new insights around these, and other, topics - people tend to quickly improve their communication skills and results. When this is combined with practicing the "skills of the trade" that people need in their day-to-day life, the results tend to lead to include:
- Increased social confidence and enjoyment.
- Better and more enjoyable social circles and social experiences.
- Increased social motivation.
- Better social results in all areas of life.
- Better relationships.
- An improvement in professional results.
- And more.
To achieve this, my coaching focuses on a combination of psychological warfare against your contaminated thinking (it's a lot more fun and less scary than it might sound;), combined with tasks and practical exercises that will help you expand your comfort zone easily, learn new social skills, and start creating new results for yourself immediately after your very first session.
"I've experienced getting a better self-esteem, better social skills and confidence, and more drive. This isn't as scary as one might first think, and throughout the process you easily develop a sense of achievement and a the feeling of 'I can handle it'." - Espen, former client.
This is not the kind of thing that requires you to talk about things for weeks, months, or years before you start seeing change. Change happens the moment you start putting what you learn into practice.
You will see how easy high-level communication is, once our experience of it is fully understood.
Would you like to learn more about how I can help you improve your communication? Reach out through the form and I'll get back to you shortly!