"I understand it logically, but it still doesn't feel like it."
At some point or other, I hear this from almost all my clients. They have a logical understanding of something, but they still don't feel right about it.
It can be that they logically understand that there's nothing wrong with talking to a stranger. That there's no reason to take a rejection personally. Or perhaps that it really is a good idea to set boundaries, resolve a conflict, or ask for what they want.
They understand these things logically. But they still feel uncomfortable, scared, nervous, or one or more of those other inhibiting emotions.
Understanding something logically and really feeling it tends to be two different things in many cases. Because while it’s easy for our logical brain to accept something if it makes sense, that doesn’t mean that our subconscious mind will accept it quite as fast or as easily.
An example of this is rejection. While it’s easy to explain to someone why, logically, rejection shouldn’t bother us – in the real world the fear (and pain) is still very much there.
So why does this happen? And how do we fix it?
This is a topic that I've gotten to do a lot of work on over the 11+ years I've been a coach. And it's one of the topics I explain in my online course "The Secrets of Confidence and Communication".
I’ve now also uploaded that particular chapter to my YouTube channel so that you can watch it for free right here:
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Hi, I'm TJ Guttormsen.
Since 2009 I’ve coached clients ranging from Olympic gold medalists and billionaires, to people who simply want more out life.
I’ve done over 100 national media appearances, published books, and created online courses that have earned several “Highest Rated” titles from their 11 000+ members.
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