Should you work on your strengths or weaknesses? - TJ Guttormsen

Should you work on your strengths or weaknesses?

The conversation.

«Really? I didn’t know you get coaching, I thought you only coached others.” My friend was surprised.

I laughed, “I know what the power of coaching is firsthand, why on earth would I not get coaching myself?”

She thought about it, “that actually explains a lot… I’ve never been able to figure out how you suddenly seem to shift gears. How you out of nowhere start getting new results. I thought you were just lucky.”

This little exchange happened after my long-time friend asked me what she should get coaching on if she wanted to work on herself.

I told her that the decision would have to be up to her. “Most people seek out coaching for the things they struggle with.” I told her. “But plenty of us also make sure to get coaching on our strengths. For instance, one of the topics I get the most coaching on is communication. Although it’s probably the topic I know the most about.”

“Why would you need coaching on communication?”

“Well, there are two reasons. Firstly, because I want to stay up to date and keep expanding my knowledge, skills, and understanding in the field. But more importantly, because it’s easy to start trusting one’s own skills a little too much when you’re good at them. And that might make you blind to some of your areas of improvement, or halt your progress completely.

World champions don’t stop having others train them once they’re the best in the world. We should all work on our strengths in the areas of our lives that are important to us.”


So.. work on your strengths or weaknesses?

If you are serious about creating bigger and better results in your life, you can never ignore neither your strengths or weaknesses. They will both need your focus, your effort, and your resources if you want to keep improving.

But how do you choose whether to invest your resources to work on your strengths or your weaknesses?

Well, it’s quite simple. Firstly, look at which of your goals is most important to you right now. Secondly, consider which skills, insights or knowledge will be most helpful to reach them.

That’s where you start. It doesn’t matter if you consider them your weaknesses or your strengths – it matters that you double down on your efforts to improve them even more to get you to your goal.

Personally, I am continuously getting coaching on one thing or another. It is how I’ve been able to create my career, to find and build my perfect relationships, to publish my books, to live in the city of my dreams, and all the other things I’ve created for myself over the last 15 years.

However, I’m not saying that you have to have a coach. But you have to have a strategy for how to improve your weaknesses and strengths in a structured way.

And whether that is with the help of a coach, a mastermind group, or the right study material and the time and self-discipline to do it on your own is up to you.

But if you’re reading this article I’m willing to bet that you have goals that you haven’t achieved yet. If you want to want to achieve them, don’t wait for the “right time” or be foolish enough to think that it’ll happen on its own.

Make the commitment to yourself and your future – and start working on the number 1 thing that will help you create the life that you want.


And if you need any help figuring out what that thing is, feel free to reply to email me and let me know what your goal is. I can likely help you figure it out in about 3 emails with a few strategic questions. And as always, I’m more than happy to help!

– TJ

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