Want to socialize in quarantine? - TJ Guttormsen

Want to socialize in quarantine?

How do we socialize in quarantine, when we’re supposed to practice social distancing?

Many governments around the world are now implementing social distancing/quarantining, to curb the spread of the coronavirus.

This is, of course, a good thing for those at risk. But it does affect our ability to do a lot of the work that might be important to us. Such as work on our social skills, our social confidence, building our social circles, and so on.

So, what do we do?

This was the topic of conversation brought up by one of the members of my Facebook group Centered Communication yesterday. And I thought it was a topic worth repeating in this week’s article.



Firstly, let’s remember that there’s more to things like social confidence than to talk to other people. Don’t get me wrong, that’s an important part of it, but not the only part of it.

In addition to practice our communication, we should also be learning. Learning about ourselves and learning about what we want to get better at.

Personally, I have a list of e-books, audiobooks, video seminars, and courses that I plan on going through.

So what will you be learning over the next month? Where will you be learning it from? I recommend you make a list and start working your way through it.

Remember that places like Udemy, YouTube, Ted.com, and more are filled to the brim with educational content. Don’t ignore them.

(And, of course, I’ll be posting new content regularly in that Facebook group I mentioned, so don’t forget about us either;)


Socializing from home.

Secondly, even if you can’t go out and meet people in person, there are plenty of other ways you can connect with others to socialize while in quarantine.

Remember when we used to call people on the phone?

When was the last time you picked up your phone and called someone, just to chat?

If both you and they are in quarantine, that can be a great way both to practice communication, deepen your connection, and pass the time.

One of my coaching clients in Norway has started a “phone list” of people he calls every two days or so to chat. He simply went on Facebook and made a post about it, saying that to stave off boredom he would make a list of people to call and talk to – for no other reason than to connect and socialize while in quarantine – and encouraged everyone who wanted to be on that list to leave a comment on his post.

My client now spends a little over two hours every day chatting with both close friends and acquaintances and says he can’t wait to go out and meet everyone again when it’s safe. He felt like he had made at least five new friends last I heard.

You don’t have to be that structured about it, of course, you can simply pick up your phone and call whomever you’d like to call. But if you’re locked up at home – or know someone who is – I recommend you do it regularly.

Then there’s text.

And lastly, there is, of course, still good old text messaging and chat. Granted, these mediums are not great replacements for actual conversation, but it’s still a good way to work on your network. If you’ve taken my “How to make friends and create better social circles- course, you’ve learned lots of little techniques (such as pinging) which can be very helpful in times like these.

Did I forget anything? Do you have any other ideas of how people can work on their communication or social circles while in quarantine? Email them to me and I’ll add them to the conversation in my Facebook group. Or, better yet, come join the group yourself and post them!


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My most popular online courses:

Authentic Assertiveness: Next level communication skills.
The secrets of Confidence and Communication.
How to make friends and create better social circles.

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