Dating Coaching for Men - TJ Guttormsen

Dating Coaching for Men

Who is dating coaching for men for?

Dating coaching for men is for:

Those who want more out of their romantic or sexual life.
hose who have a hard time meeting women that they truly connect with.
Or those who have a history of “settling down” in relationships that weren’t right for them.

These are three of the most common challenges my clients face, though there are many more.

In today’s society, perhaps more than ever before, many men struggle to create the romantic and sexual lives that they desire.

Dating coaching for men tends to either be superficial and based in manipulation and lies – or non-existent.

“After learning from TJ it wasn’t just my sexlife that changed dramatically. I’ve also gotten the confidence to follow my passion, and it has been the most amazing adventure. I could never have done that without the confidence I got from his program.” – Navid, former client.

A study found that as many as 20% (1 out of 5!) people feel lonely on a near-daily basis. And even more men feel like they don’t have anyone to truly connect with. If you add on how many people are involuntarily single or trapped in relationships that aren’t giving them what they need, that number skyrockets.

Since 2009 I’ve worked with men all over the world to overcome these challenges. I’ve helped countless men meet their dream partner, and had the honor of being the guest of honor at several engagement parties. I’ve met children born in relationships sparked by my coaching. Some of my clients have been 30+-year-old virgins who finally were able to change that label. Some have been (statistically speaking) perfectly average guys who just wanted to be able to create a good relationship. And – let’s be honest here – some have been guys who simply wanted to date more women and have more fun.

The one thing they all had in common, was that they were ready to take control of their dating life. They were willing to make the effort of changing their bad habits and learning new skills so that they could start living the life they wanted.

“I had a great time being coached by TJ at a recent bootcamp in Amsterdam. There’s two things I’d like to highlight, one is that the guy’s very accomplished(…). The other thing is that the guy’s a great coach, he’s very enthusiatstic, really seems to connect with the students, and is constantly giving solid advice and hints & tips. I suffer from approach anxiety and was really dreading the first night out, however hanging out with [Torkel] this mostly went away and instead I really enjoyed myself. Finally I’d say that [Torkel] genuinely wants people to succeed and would definitley recommend him as a coach.” – Carson, former client.


The philosophy.

Since the very first time I spoke about dating coaching for men in front of a crowd and until today, I’ve had one goal: To help people create Genuine Connections with each other.

My method is based on honesty, authenticity, and showing the world who you are.

I’ve been making a joke about the workshop since I attended, accusingly saying, “I went there to become a new man, instead I just became better me than ever before. That might be what has surprised me the most; how great one can actually feel about oneself, as long as your have the right mindset and take the right actions.” – Ragnar, former client.

To do this I work with my clients to create new communication skills through both external and internal work.

External work:

The external work is all about the things that happen between you and the women you meet. Just a few of the many topics we work on here tend to include:

  • How to start conversations with (attractive) strangers, no matter where you are.
  • Several ways to create rapport (the feeling of comfort) with basically anyone.
  • How to create tension (the main component that separates a friend from a lover).
  • How to escalate from a conversation, to flirt, to a sexual and/or romantic relationship.

Internal work:

The internal work we do, though, is what creates the biggest progress for most. Exactly what that internal work is about changes from person to person, but they often include:

  • Removing social insecurities and building social confidence.
  • Eliminating bad social habits created in childhood or youth.
  • Removing our fear of strangers or the need for approval from others.
  • Learning to know – and love – oneself better.
  • Creating a more enjoyable life for oneself.
  • Becoming the kind of person that will be a good partner for one’s ideal woman.
  • And much more..

As you might have noticed, my philosophy is about honest, comfortable, and authentic communication. Combined, of course, with lots of fun, exciting, and effective social skills that will help you create the kind of conversations that work for you.

I do not – and I can’t stress this enough – try to teach men how to “get any woman they want”. That’s not how reality work. Instead, we focus on getting to the point where we are quickly able to identify who we are a genuinely good match with – and on knowing what to do when we meet someone like that to make sure the meeting becomes something more.

Genuine connections are about genuine compatibility. After all, who would want to spend time with someone they’re not compatible with if they don’t have to?

“Life, as it is now, seems almost unreal. A life I’ve never even dared to dream about before is suddenly a reality. A huge thanks goes to [TJ], because it’s mostly because of his amazing mindsets and incredible ability to inspire others that have gotten me to where I am today. Genuine connections is a gift that no one should say no to!” – Tord, former client. [Translated.]


Join my 16-week dating coaching for men program.

This dating coaching for men program is done entirely online so that it doesn’t matter which part of the world you’re in. As long as you have regular access to the internet, you have what you need. I regularly work with clients from both the Americas, Europe, and Asia. And I’ve had clients and students on all continents over my years as a coach.

“Solid and to-the-point, this helped me significantly. [TJ] is a very down-to-earth coach, and it was definitely worth the money.” – Tom, former client.

Throughout the program, you’ll have a set time every week where we do our weekly call. During this call, we’ll talk about what you’ve experienced since our last session as well as explore and learn about the topic that will help you take a step forward. At the end of each session, we will create a set of exercises for you to go out and work on, to create real-life results.

Between your calls I will be available to you via e-mail, chat – and, when necessary, emergency spot coaching sessions if something important (like a hot date;) comes up unexpectedly and you need my help to deal with it.

In other words, this is not your typical once-a-week program where your only contact with me and the material you’re learning will be for one out of the week’s 168 hours. You will have tasks to work on every day, you’ll have me waiting in your inbox or chat whenever you need it, and you’ll practically hear my voice in the back of your head every day.

This is an intense program that requires you to be prepared to put in the work necessary to succeed.

And I don’t let just anybody sign up for this.

In order to be on this program, you and I have to have completed at least one free coaching session.

I have this rule for two reasons:

1. So that you will understand how my coaching works, and what being on this program will be like.
2. So that I know that you are the kind of person that will benefit from my coaching – because I refuse to work with people I’m not confident can succeed.

You see, some people just aren’t right for this program. And it’s not because they’re “too helpless”. It’s because they aren’t ready to commit to making the efforts necessary for the results they want.

Are you?

If you know you are, or if you simply want to find out if you are – sign up for a free coaching session through the form below, and let’s find out!

The worst thing that happens is that you get a free session, filled with advice and exercises you can follow on your own, out of it.

“I have now proven to myself that I can build a social circle of women, and [even] open relationships if I want to. Not to mention that I became comfortable going out alone to meet people, without knowing anyone there. In other words, I now know that I can do this without being dependent on other people. The sense of accountability of having a coach behind me in this process was most important, and what made me go out and make the necessary effort.” – John, former client. [Translated]

(Click here if you’re not ready for the 16-week program, and would like to book a single session instead.)

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